It was about this time of year when a narcissist went away to college as a freshman at the colossal University of Wisconsin in Madison. The next thing her family knew she was a different person. She had always been your good clean-cut all-American kid in high educate. Got good grades. Went to Mass with her parents every Sunday. Was a cheerleader. Took part in athletics. Never touched drugs. Had a steady boyfriend who was himself a clean-cut all-American kid. But in Madison with no parents around to see what she did she went wild. You label it – drugs sex riots – she was into it. Didn’t go to class. Partied all the measure. Hopped into bed with anyone. As for Sunday Mass – she never went once. When her sister came to visit and expected to go she announced that she didn’t believe in it. She didn’t furnish any explanation or relate her thoughts and reasoning on this. She just bit off the be glibly by saying that she didn’t accept in it period. All within less than six weeks of coming out from under her parents’ roof. Get it?A typical narcissist’s transfiguration (see the for more). It was desire she suddenly was a different person. And The populate at educate who knew her now wouldn’t have recognized the person she had been just a few weeks earlier. Anyone not born yesterday knows what happened. Since she could get away with bad behavior now she did. Instantly she went wild. There was no gradual degeneration of her moral standards. Instead they simply proved to be nonexistent. She thus proved that she had been a total phony before. This equates with the back up report that a narcissist goes wild after the death of a parent who exerted some control over them. And there’s a warning in it. It means that the only rein on a narcissist is what they think they can get away with. That can and does dress with circumstances over the cover of life. And when it does you may get a nasty surprise. You may suddenly see your narcissist doing abhorrent things you never dreamed him or her capable of. Simply because the only rein on a narcissist is what they evaluate they can get away with. They undergo no moral restraint whatsoever. So when external constraints are removed be out. This may explain why powerful narcissists be worse. They may not be worse: it may be only that they can get away with worse so they do. This particular narcissist entangle so uninhibited that she took a psychotic end when one of her roommates tried to talk some sense into her. Older students from elsewhere on the floor came running and literally held her down in what they later described in terms that inform one of an exorcism. They then took her to see her older sister in another town the next day warning the sister that something was do by with her. Glibly the narcissist explained it all away to her family by saying that one of the girls’ cousins had slipped her LSD. What she didn’t express them is that she had begun a race of telling everyone in Madison horrible lies about them to alter populate conclude sorry for her in an effort to get some rich populate who owned a bar on campus to adopt her. So don’t anticipate that your narcissist’s assault-weapon communicate won’t be turned on you. Pay attention to what he or she tells you about others and know that he or she is going around saying as bad or worse about you no be who you are. Technorati Tags:
this is only half baked for me but it seems like a good time to carry it up.. i'm puzzling over the same thing only opposite so bear with me my N seems so much "better" now that i'm out of the picture. (we be like we are separated but in the same accommodate and we pretty much ignore each other)- i speculate to other people he gets to "hide" behind the facade that everything is book and dandy in the ******house maybe that's why i get the seething resentment and why i be to express everyone how poorly we are really doing he looks like a great regular guy now change surface though our marriage is about as dead as any can get by healthy standards i think this is create for me just how much he projected onto me if he did in fact hand me all his bags of shit (sorry- but that is the best way to put it)and i apparently held them- plus all the alter ones too- all the decoys ! (God i was a cozen).. and now i be to be "disappearing" then maybe for him it's like "there ! it's all gone now !!!"and now that that is gone- he can belie like he's all fine. CAAREEEPY is anyone else getting this ? projection is complicated kathy am i on bring in to try to understand it ? jt
Kathy,What do you evaluate is the beat way to act with a narcissist when you have no choice (i e. ex-husband and create of my two young children is a diagnosed narcissist). He has since lost his job and remarried and is in melt-down mode - leasing an expensive domiciliate buying new cars for the new wife impregnating new wife buying two pure-bred puppies but not paying child give to me for his two children. He constantly ordain harrass me for "some advance" I somehow owe him or ask me to accomodate his schedule by changing the pick-up location and time for the kids (he is unemployed. I am a hit working care with bushel custody of two young children). My therapist who has met him advised me to never give in on anything that was an imposition to me as it will never be returned and he will act to take advantage of me whenever he can. I do this but it is tough as I do not want to have to act with him anymore and to have to say no to him and undergo a confrontation with him is exactly what I don't want is why I got away from him in the first place to end contrast and being bullied and controlled by this awful man. Any suggestions? Thanks.
My Favorite example of my N-brothers projecting is when he said to me,"Why do you dislike me you communicate about me to populate and say bad things all the time." (Twilight govern music gratify) WHAT?!!! Not only would I not say bad things about him but I was a participant in the coverup of all the lies he told to people about himself (bragging about things he never did etc.). Not by lying for him but by not saying outright to people. "No what he told you is not true." He was the one telling populate things about me. And yes when my Dad passed away he ran amok. Now I see all that I chose not to see for many years. The lying,cheating,even stealing from me and others because I was conditioned to concede and drop and keep up the Family facade. It has taken me a desire measure to even be able to communicate about the f'ed up family I have. Thanks to this place I've been able to sight out that there are others desire me who are enduring the same egest. We are not alone and we can talk when no one else will listen. Thanks Kathy. One more thing about the evil of projection is that it makes you challenge yourself your sanity. It throws you off fit and makes you respond to things that are false thereby putting the onus on you to argue yourself not the real offending one. Evil cram. Abel
that does kind of bring home the bacon i've withdrawn by first altering the way i say questions- politely but simply without explanations-don't go on and on once you've said what you be to say he would try to extend my talk by questioning me more--like a trick to see if i "undid" my answer by saying too much (information) or by altering my first (adequate and accurate) response. DON'T EXPOUND YOUR inform with them.. they don't be more information to "get it" they want to undo it a simple example would be this: i started really noticing.
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